Fan Theories

Name: R Rae
Theory

I'm a nerd who dabbled in English and the Classics in college so here I go the only way I know how...

I once heard SJ say one of the reasons he liked the song because of its 'build'. The lyrics seem to describe events over a period of time, with the music building as the intensity of the situation does. [The first "Let me break it down..." section ends with a desire to want to kick back a few drinks while the second one, amidst hard heavy music, takes on a much more serious intervention-like tone.]

I was always taught to pay attention to repeated metaphors, such as the line "you're the marigold", which appears at both the beginning and end. Marigold is a huge metaphor. It has a significantly short life span compared to other flowers, which old folk wisdom saw as the trade-off for the marigolds gift of dazzling beauty.

Shakespeare used "marigold" often to describe an oblivious reckless type whose pride centered around their transitory qualities, like beauty, which can fade. People living in the [destructive] moment have little regard for their behaviors' consequences since they are consumed by the glory of today. There was a line I remember in "A Winter's Tale" that said something like a marigold crying after spending a night with the sun - fantastic sex, yes, but sure to leave you scorched.

So all of this leads me to conclude that it is indeed about someone who has suffered some type of assault but it seems it was a long time coming. I don't mean to imply at all that she deserved it - only that everyone probably tried to help. But there are some people who are determined to do whatever they want, following their own twisted kind of bliss. It seems she failed to react to earlier warnings and now can't face those people who might give her an 'I told you so...'. Regardless, Stephan just wants to see her again but either she can't let go of her shame or possibly by the end, is physically unable to respond. [Maybe the story continues in "The Background".....?]

And I can't help but point out that cool 'chain gang' sound effect behind the first chorus....FIERCE!


Name: Blake
Email: Topgun8488@hotmail.com
Theory:

Well i once heard kevin say that it was about someone who has been sexually abused or raped. So i guess that's what it has to be.


Name: Gib
Email: Wthermans@chartertn.net
Theory:

I heard at their Knoxville, TN concert August 13, 2000 that this song was about a guys response to his friend (a girl) that was date raped..."The guy who put his hands on you, has got nothing to do with me." It just basically says that he wants her to be the normal girl that he used to know and hang out with but he wants to be there for her. He doesn't want her to stay away from him because of this bastard. He also wants her to stand up for herself when people put her down. "come back down to the Dalva Bar and tell them 'that's just my battle scar"


Name: Toria
Email: Toria_54@hotmail.com
Theory:

This song means a lot to me. It's definetly my favorite. This song is about being abused sexually or raped. It's just like, you have to try to get over it. "It's like walking with the wounded, carrying that weight way too far." Don't blame all the people around you. It's not their fault and if they could, they would probably help you. "The guy who put his hands on you has got nothing to do with me." "Let me break it down till I force the issue/We miss your face and you know we wish you/Would come back down to the Dalva bar/You tell them that's just my battle scar" Then he talks about how it used to be before and he wants it to go back. "you're an angel in the pit with her hands in the air" It's kind of like he knows she's in this place and she doesn't know what to do. And they just want her back. Whatever happened to her changed her a lot and they miss her and he wants her to get over it. "Back down the bully to the back of the bus cause it's time for them to be scared of us."


Name: natasha heaton
Email: NaNaluvs3eb@msn.com
Theory:

i think it is about a girl who has been geting abused by their boy friend and is scared to even talk to any of her old friends cause he might kick her butt she just is not the same way she used to be!!!!


Name: Valerie
Email: the_3eb_girl@hotmail.com
Theory:

I think it also is bout girl getting raped and throught the song her life starts to get back to "normal" because some guy is by her side throught the song even when she dosen't want to be there like "we're missing you" and "I hope you come around". Also at the end of the song she gets back her strength to move on like "back down the bully to the back of the bus cuz it's time for them to be scared of us" and "till your yelling, how we'erliving cuz u got the ball and u rock on baby rock on".


Name: Caitlin
Email: Daisymoon8@aol.com
Theory:

To begin, I'd like to say that I think "Wounded" is one of the best songs on TEB's "blue". "THE GUY WHO PUTS HIS HANDS ON YOU HAS GOT NOTHING TO DO WITH ME / AND THE BRUSES THAT YOU FEEL WILL HEAL AND I HOPE YOU COME AROUND CAUSE WE'RE MISSING YOU / AND YOU USED TO SPEAK SO EASY / NOW YOU'RE AFRAID TO TALK TO ME / IT'S LIKE WALKING WITH THE WOUNDED..."

This definatly tells me that a girl has been hurt in some way by another guy and is now scared to go around this other guy (maybe Stephan Jenkins) for fear that he will hurt her the same way. All of the "guys" are missing her and when she does come back she's not the same.

"CARRYING THAT WEIGHT WAY TOO FAR / THE CONCRETE PULLED YOU DOWN SO HARD / OUT THERE WITH THE WOUNDED / WE'RE MISSING YOU / WELL I NEVER CLAIMED TO UNDERSTAND WHAT HAPPENS AFTER DARK / BUT MY FINGERS CATCH THE SPARKS AT THE THOUGHT OF TOUCHING YOU / WHEN YOU'RE WOUNDED..."

This part might suggest that the girl got pulled into the hard street crowd and the guy doesn't understand what happens out there. But maybe inside he has a longing for this girl.

"LEMME BREAK IT DOWN TILL WE FORCE THE ISSUE / WE MISS YOUR FACE AND YOU KNOW WE WISH YOU / WOULD COME BACK DOWN TO THE DALVA BAR / YOU TELL 'EM "THAT'S JUST MY BATTLE SCAR" / I WANNA KISS YOU AND KNOCK 'EM DOWN LIKE WE USED TO YOU / YOU'RE THE MARRYGOLD / TILL YOU'RE WALKIN' DOWN SHAKIN' THAT ASS AGAIN AND THEN YOU WALK ON, BABY WALK ON, YOU WALK ON / YOU'RE AN ANGEL IN THE PIT WITH HER HANDS IN THE AIR AND WE'RE MISSIN YOU"

this part says that he wants to force the fact that he wants her to come back "DOWN TO THE DALVA BAR" or the place where they all hang out. It also makes me have a stronger belief that he loves her. He misses her feminine style and her craziness.

"NOW IT'S FALL AND YOUR SHOULDERS GET TIGHTER / NERVOUS FLICKS ON THE LIGHTER / BOOTS / YOU'RE PISSED OFF POETS, YOU'RE WOMAN'S GROUPS / AND THE FRIENDS WITH YOU WE SHOULD HAVE KNOWN THIS FOOL / WELL I GUESS WE MISSED THE MARK / BUT STILL MY FINGERS CATCH THE SPARK AT THE THOUGHT OF THEM TOUCHING YOU / NOW YOU'RE WOUNDED..."

I think he's saying that they should have known that the people she started to hang out with were bad for her and would hurt her. He also says that it makes him mad to think of them hurting her.

"... YOU NEVER COME AROUND AND YOU KNOW WE MISS YOU / BUT NOBODY TOOK YOUR PRIDE AWAY / I SAID "THAT'S SOMETHING PEOPLE SAY"/ BACK DOWN THE BULLY TO THE BACK OF THE BUS / CAUSE IT'S TIME FOR THEM TO BE SCARED OF US / TILL YOU'RE YELLIN HOW WE'RE LIVING CAUSE YA GOT THE BALL / AND THEN YOU ROCK ON, BABY ROCK ON, YOU ROCK ON..."

He stresses again that he misses her... and he now he thinks she's overblowing it- that's it's not as big as it seems... i really don't understand what that whole part about "BACK DOWN THE BULLY.." that just doesn't make sense to me... yet!

"YOU'RE A SUMMERTIME HOTTIE WITH HER SOCKS IN THE AIR / YOU'RE SCREAMIN "I DON'T CARE BABY , I DON'T CARE" / YOU SAY YOU DONT KNOW / YOU SAY YOU CAN'T GROW / ALL I KNOW IS WE'RE MISSING YOU / (REPEAT) / SHOW UP WOUNDED / this last verse (i think) says that he's imagining how she used to be like a "summertime hottie" and she was guitless and free... thanks for listening to my thoughts (i know they were extremely long)... even if you don't agree - if you don't please write what you think


Name: Vicki
Email: i_am_of_the_sky@dirtylittleperverts.zzn.com
Theory:

Ah, the most beautiful song ever written and my absolute fave to analyze...

I heard a live version of "Wounded" and I remember Stephan saying "This is a song about protecting eachother." I thought that that was perfect. But on with my analysis.

There is this girl. She has been beaten or abused or raped by her boyfriend. And she's kinda closed-off from her friends and this guy. He could be a close guy-friend, an ex-boyfriend, etc. She feels she can deal with it without opening up to him and letting him in. The guy doesn't know what to do or say, I guess. He's basically saying that he wants her to get better soon. Like it's that easy.

The guy isn't being insensitive. I guess he just doesn't understand, doesn't know how to deal with this whole situation. Guys doesn't really understand us women, But he is trying to understand, even though he doesn't seem to understand her methods of healing, such as her "pissed-off poets [and her] women's groups". He says so himself that the only thing he knows is that he's missing her. But he is trying so hard to understand. He knows she's hurting, he knows she's in pain. And he can't stand that: "My fingers catch those sparks at the thought of them touching you." He'd kill whoever did this to her.

He is, as we see in "And the friends with you, we should've known this fool, well I guess we missed the mark", blaming himself and their friends for what happened to her, for not paying close attention.

This song is so comforting, so soothing. We see that this guy, even if the only thing he knows is that he wants her to get better, he wants her to stand up, be strong, and be who she used to be. It's empowering. Not only rape victims can relate to this. Anybody who has ever been put down or pushd around can realte to this one. To not be wounded, but to be a "summer time hottie with her socks in the air"!

On a side note, it's interesting that he's talking about her abuser in the singular mode: "the guy who put his hands on you...", and then in the plural: "my fingers catch the sparks at the thought of them touching you..." It seems she had an abusive boyfriend and he and his friends gang-raped her. Which brings me to the subject of Stanley Kubrick's "A Clockwork Orange". What seems to be gang-rape, the mention of the Dalva Bar, Stephan performing with a top hat at shows, eerily looking like Malcolm McDowell in the film... It's making me wonder whether Stephan and Kevin wrote the song with this film in mind.


Name: Jamie
Email: harmlesstigerrrr@hotmail.com
Theory:

This song is about a girl who has just gotten out of a abusive relationship and has come back to her hometown. The song is sung by her old friend. He sees how she is so wounded and feels so dirty and has lost all of her confidence. The guy broke her, emotionally and phisically. But he (stephan) remebers the girl that used to be, and is trying to get her pumped up to become herself again, he "forces the issue," to try to make her get rid of all the pain and move on. She is scared of everything though, even her friends, she's afraid to talk to him, tell him all that happened. Her old friends miss what she had been. HE loves her (I want to kiss you and knock 'em down like we used to) he wants her back to how she was. He wants her to feel alive again. (screaming I don't care baby I don't care)


Name: Sue
Email: abfterm@erols.com
Theory:

It's obvious what the song is about, everyone knows that, but the hidden meaning comes out to me and others more because we've been there. Once someone takes your dignity and your ability to feel good about yourself, what's left but that hollow feeling that nothing will ever be okay again? You can't trust your friends anymore, or even yourself. I'm only 14, but I lost something special, and I feel I can never get it back again. I've been listening to Third Eye Blind since no one ever knew who they were, and this song means a lot to me because it's true. If I could meet Stephan, I would tell him how much I respect him for coming out with this song, and you can quote me on that.


Name: Kohlë
Email: punkpenguin31@aol.com
Theory:

I think this song deals with a guy who really loves this girl; they're super-close friends and he's in love with her. Then she gets raped or what have you, and she retreats into her own dark little cell of emotional despair ("...your shoulders get tighter, nervous flicks on the lighter, boots, your pissed-off poets, your women's groups"). She's also scared of trusting guys anymore ("The guy who put his hands on you has got nothing to do with me") and so is avoiding her friends at their usual hangout ("the Dalva Bar"). You can really feel the guy's sadness and angst and all his feelings about the girl and what happened to her, not only through the superb lyrics but also through the background music and Steve's voice.


Name: Kristen
Email: kdm54144@yahoo.com
Theory:

I believe this song is definatley about someone being sexually abused. Its about someone trying to have a relationship with the sexually abused person but it is hard to get through to them because of the pain they have went through- " and the bruises that you feel will heal and i hope you come around ,cause we're missing you." The painful experience has changed the person "you used to be so easy, your afriad to talk to me." and left them scared to commmunicate with people and have a relationship. I think the person who is having a relationship with them knows that they are hurt and doesnt want to get intimate with them "and my fingers catch the spark at the thought of them touching you when your wounded."


Name: Jacki
Email: Jaki1227@aol.com
Theory:

Obviously this song is about a girl who has been abused in some way and is embarrassed to show her face in public, around her friends... the speaker says *carrying that weight way too far* meaning the girl is letting the shame affect her too long, and she needs to come out, be herself again, and not be ashamed to *show up wounded*


Name: angel_in_the_pit (aka moviestar815)
Email: moviestar815@hotmail.com
Theory:

Oh, this song is definitely about a bad experience that a (I'm assuming girl-)friend of the narrator had. I think the lyrics pretty clearly allude that it was rape or something like that. No question.


Name: Mike Emmet
Email: ladysman386@hotmail.com
Theory:

Stephan himself said that the song is about someone thats been sexually abused and has been scarred by the experience. So, you could use that under evidence also.


Name: brittany
Email: hottthuggirl2@hotmail.com
Theory:

i think its about someone whos been in an abusive relationship. i was once iin one, and that song reminds me of it everytime i hear it.


Name: David
Email: dmalli@msn.com
Theory:

Definitely a song about rape, but spoken from the perspective of a friend/lover who has also been "vicitimed" due to the distance "what happens after dark" has caused.

Stephan is trying to convince this survivor that it "just (her) battle scar" and that she still holds her pride. It is easy for him though in his semi-selfishness and his thoughts of touching her - but he wants to force the issue, which he can't... she is jsut not ready to be the angle in the pit again, or that summertime hottie - at least not yet.

He is also trying to promote her growth at the same time, painting very vivid images of this girl being the fun, exciting chick shaking her ass down at the Dalva bar that she always used to be. Stephan seems to be trying to convince her that THAT is who she is, not a victim, but a survivor who has a whole life to lead... he's just hurt too.


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Name: Wire
Email: wire_moore@hotmail.com
Theory:

I think this song is an ode to a female fan or groupie who was hurt maybe intentionally, or maybe accidentally, around the band, possibly during a concert. The person who was hurt was well-known, maybe close, to the group. Maybe related to someone in the crew, or maybe someone known to the group before the group hit the big time. The "angle in the pit with her hands in the air" pretty clearly refers to someone below the stage from the perspective of band members (mosh pit). "The ball" is also something found on the floor of a concert. There's a club called Dalva's in S.F. which seems not a grossly unlikely place for 3EB folks to hang. The verse "knock 'em down like we used to" in this context suggests the victim is closer than an anonymous fan, while the recurring use of the word "we" in reference to feelings about the victim sounds like the victim was outside the innermost circle of the group. Yet the verse "and the friends with you, we should have known this fool" reads like those in/around the group considered themselves close to the victim and should have noticed the perpatrator and prevented whatever went down. This may mean that perpetrator was also well-known to the group. The phrase "fingers catch the sparks" could refer to the complex feelings that performers have for those around them and the energy during a performance. It may also refer to anger at the transgression of the perpetrator. Maybe the episode occured and was witnessed during a performance "Let me break it down 'till I force the issue" means 'hear me'. "Back down the bully to the back of the bus 'cause it time for them to be scared of us" means not only does the group feel regret about the episode but that future transgressions won't be tolerated. It also suggests that the group has been scared by its fans. But they promise they'll keep it safe to come back. The victim has the group's respect ("nobody took your pride away") The group and the victim have talked since the episode and the victim says she's gone ("you say you can't grow")


Name: Keith
Email: imwithdaband@hotmail.com
Theory:

Wounded. The entire song talks about the unique helplessness you have when someone close to you is hurt. Obviously the most emotionally charged way to put it into perspective is through the story of a rape/sexual abuse situation. Anyway this song hit me in the gut like a mother fuckin' ton of bricks cuz I can relate, cuz my girlfriend was raped, and it is like walking with the wounded cuz there is nothing to say that will heal them. It slows you down, and you don't, can't and won't EVER know how she feels. It also does affect her life and through her yours. Nothings the same.


Name: James
Email: stormboy84@aol.com
Theory:

I think that this song is about a girl who has been raped or sexually abused by someone, and how he still loves her even though another guy has touched her.


Name: Jenn
Email: trulydemented@yahoo.com
Theory:

Let's put it this way. This song is the story of my life. I was in a sexually abusive relationship and this song is everything that happened to me while I was in it. I secluded myself, hid my feelings and life away in the corner of my room. I blocked out friends and family. I wouldn't let anyone in. When I walked, I could feel the weight of everything on my shoulders. This song always reminds me of it when I hear it. It's what all of my friends were feeling at the time. Wanting to reach out and touch me, help me, but they couldn't. Convince me that I was still me and that life was still worth living. They missed me. It's just about the anguish that all parties go through when someone is in such a relationship.


Name: Anecia
Email: Phattygrl8806@hotmail.com
Theory:

It's about a girl that was molested, raped, or abused some way. She's changed and she's gotten quiet and scared but he's telling her you're safe now. I will protect you. I will never hurt you like you have been already been hurt and abused. You can still be that same innocent girl you once were.


Name: Steve
Email: penkyismyhero@hotmail.com
Theory:

Wow, first I gotta say "Wounded" is an amazing song. My take on it is that ithe song is about him talking to a girl that was raped. I had heard in an interview that he had known a girl that this happened to. And its about wishing she could get over the fear of being hurt again and go back to how things were. "I wish you would come back down to the Delva Bar and tell them, thats just my battle scar" saying she should return to life and say, yeah, that happened, but its just a scar and I'll live on. The song actually sounds like a sequal to "In The Background" which is about a girl in the hospital (after possibly being raped?). It could be an ongoing fight in his life and those two songs were how he dealt with it. Thats my say in it, believe what you like. Peace

Wounded

The guy who put his hands on you
Has got nothing to do with me
And the bruises that you feel will heal
And I hope you’ll come around
Cause we're missing you
And you used to speak so easy
Now you're afraid to talk to me
It's like walking with the wounded
Carrying that weight way to far
Concrete pulled you down so hard
Out there with the wounded
We're missing you
Well I never claimed to understand what happens after dark
But my fingers catch the sparks at the thought of touching you
When you're wounded
Let me break it down till to force the issue
We miss your face and you know we wish you
Would come back down to the Dalva Bar
You tell them, that's just my battle scar
I wanna kiss you
And knock 'em down like we used to
You're the marigold
Till you're walking down shaking that ass again
Then you walk on, baby, walk on, you walk on
On and on
You're an angel in the pit with her hands in the air
And we're missing you
Now it's fall, and your shoulder's get tighter
Nervous flicks on the lighter, boots
Your pissed off poets, your women's groups
And the friends with you, we should have known this fool
Well I guess we missed the mark
Still my fingers catch the sparks at the thought of
Them touching you
Now you're wounded
Let me break it down till to force the issue
You never come around, and you know we miss you
Well nobody took your pride away
I say, that's something people say
Back down the bully to the back of the bus
Cause it's time for them to be scared of us
Till you're yelling, how we living cause you got the ball
Then you rock on, baby, rock on, you rock on
On and on
You're a summer time hottie with her socks in the air
Screaming I won't care, baby, I don't care, no
You say you don't know
You say you can't grow (you’re the marigold)
All I know is we're missing you, you
You say you don't know
You say you can't grow (you’re the marigold)
All I know is we're missing you
Show up wounded

Song Info

Kevin Cadogan: Songwriter, Guitar
Brad Hargreaves: Drums
Stephan Jenkins: Songwriter, Percussion, Vocals
Arion Salazar: Bass, Vocals, Univox

Can Be Found On:

Blue, 1999

Alternative Versions

Blue, 1999

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